"if you want to lead a fulfilling life you have to be the master of your own destiny. You don't want to have major regrets on your deathbed as many people do. Starting the "Golden Path" is always hard. However, what can be even more difficult are the tests that you will encounter along the way."
The Golden Path
By Mike Mahler
In Frank Herbert's classic book "Children of Dune" young Leto Atriedes has to do what his legendary father could not and follow the "Golden Path." Leto resisted it for a while and wanted to be something else. However, he soon realized that it was his destiny and he had to deal with the trials and tribulations of the path ahead. Often in life we end up doing something we do not want to do, because we are scared of the unknown path of what we do want to do. Having negative family members and friends put your dreams down does not help either.
Moreover, pressure from society to just go with the flow is hard to fight. Regardless, if you want to lead a fulfilling life you have to be the master of your own destiny. You don't want to have major regrets on your deathbed as many people do. Starting the "Golden Path" is always hard. However, what can be even more difficult are the tests that you will encounter along the way.
Starting The Golden Path
Life has a way of making sure that you are serious and committed before letting you achieve your dreams. What will you do when everything goes wrong? What will you do when your personal life falls apart? Will you persevere and grow? Or will you throw in the towel and give up? If you want to persevere and grow, then read on. Otherwise, just go back to watching the Jerry Springer show.
Fifteen months ago I decided to follow my "Golden Path" and dive head first into the strength-training world. I had been in the high level sales world for several years and had enough. I did well there, but it was not my passion and each day that I avoided my true calling was another day in which I felt my life energy dissipate. To my surprise, things moved very fast and I got very excited. Being na?, I thought that it would always be like that and did not see the hardships that would be coming my way in the near future.
Six months into the business things started slowing down big time. No matter what I did, I could not get things going. Fortunately, I had a lot of savings from my previous jobs that kept me going during the lean times. Regardless, I got to a point in which I wondered if I had made the right choice. A few months later, things were still going pretty slow and my savings were dwindling rapidly. The temptation was there to go back to the business world and get a regular job to make all of the financial problems go away.
After all, I was barely making ends meet and did not want to go into debt. Around the same time I acquired a really bad case of pneumonia. Over the course of several weeks, my left lung became completely blocked with bacteria and pus. I was in agony. Looking back, I realize that getting that horrible case of pneumonia was one of the best things that ever happened to me. It reminded me that life is short and that leaders seize the moment and persevere no matter how bad the odds are. I swore that if I lived through the experience, I would be 100% committed to making my dreams come true and that I would never doubt myself again. Fortunately, I pulled through.
By the time that I was able to train again and start working, I only had seven dollars left in my account. I was devastated to say the least. In addition, to being physically weak, I barely had any money left. All of those voices of doubt came right back. However, this time, I told them to go to hell. I became more determined than ever to turn everything around. I jumped back into training sensibly and built my strength back over the course of a few months. In the meantime, I started writing and promoting several workshops.
My first month back in, I generated $2500 in profit. The next month, I made $3200 and then $3300 and then $3400. I have been making over $3400 ever since then and I am sure that I will be making over $5000 a month before the end of this year. I was back in a big way and things were going really well. Opportunities were popping up left and right. My strength was going through the roof and so was my confidence. Whenever things are going that well, get ready for another test of your determination. That is exactly what happened recently. The next dose came in the form of a personal problem.
I am not going to go into any details, but what happened hit me really hard. In fact, in many ways it was much harder than the case of pneumonia that I experienced. I became really angry and was consumed by my dark side. The hate kept building and I felt like no end was in site. I could not think clearly anymore and was heading on a path of self-destruction.
Normally, when I have problems, I internalize them and try to deal with them personally. Sometimes it works, yet most of the time it does not. The best that you can do is block the problem out of your mind. However, that is not really dealing with the problem and you can be sure that it will stay in your subconscious and surface again.
After watching a lot of motivational movies such as "Antwone Fisher" and thought provoking movies such as "American History X," I realized that I could not live with the anger and the hate. Furthermore, I spoke to several people about what I was going through and many of them could relate. Some people took years of counseling to get past the experience and others became alcoholics for years. Both options were unacceptable and I knew that I had to face this problem head on and get past the anger and hate.
I realized that the hate was towards myself more than anyone else. We all have an ego and a dark side and although we need it for balance, when the scales are tipped and we become consumed by it, it becomes too much to deal with. I did not want to be someone who looked back later with regret or worse did not take the opportunity to make things right while there was still time. Life is short and it is too short to be full of hate and regret. Fortunately, I made the right decision and made things right.
I am know more motivated than ever to be a great leader and help others make their dreams come true. The "Golden Path" is not always an easy one.
However, nothing worth having in life is ever easy. When we struggle and suffer, we learn what we are really made off and what we really want. Once we know what we want and what we are willing to sacrifice to get there, we become invincible. Legendary author Napoleon Hill once said, "The world has a way of making room for people who know exactly what they want."
I finally understand what he was saying. Don't be afraid of doing what you have always wanted to do in life. If you have the right intentions and a noble purpose, a path will be paved for you. Just be ready for the inevitable bumps that you will come across and do not be too proud to get the help that you need to carry forward. We all need to hear and be motivated by your story and accomplishments.
See you on the "Golden Path".
About The Author
Mike Mahler is a strength coach and Senior RKC based in Santa Monica, Ca. He is also the author of the DVD "Mahler's Aggressive Strength For MMA." Mike is available for seminars around the US and overseas. Visit www.mikemahler.com for more info.
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